The Science of Love

A few years back, a group of astro-physicists at MIT tried to put together a formula to figure out whether or not a planet could sustain life and potentially have intelligent beings.  First, they would use Earth as a model (Distance from the sun, rate of rotation and the amount of days in a "year").  Using those figures, they would, rather than speculate on each celestial orb individually, use a process of elimination to narrow it down.  After scratching out many known planets based off of size, density, and those parameters of Earth as a model, they were able to conclude that only one planet could possibly even sustain life on the level that we know.  And then the chance of an evolved species that resembles humans would be highly unlikely, due to the projected age of the planet.

Now, I know that this seems very "nerdy" and you are probably wondering what this has to do with marriage, kids, family, life, etc...

But I bring this up to demonstrate how difficult it is to find a partner that will not only be compatible with you, but also one who will also find you attractive as a mate.

I met my wife in the Kansas City area.  When I tell people that, they say, "Well, it's easy to find love in the city."  But they are wrong.

If you use the MIT formula when talking about finding "the one," it actually seems improbable. 

First, start with population.  The greater Kansas City area has an estimated population of 2,136,653.  If you immediately remove males (47%) from this total, the amount drops dramatically to 1,132,426.  Odds still seem good, right? 

But then you have to figure in women not interested in men (12.2%).  Now, you are down to 996,534.  Almost a million!  Awesome right?  Wrong!

Because now you have to factor in age.  Let's say you want to find someone between 25-35 years old.  That leaves you only 17.2% (171,404).

The rest will dwindle down based on your own personal preferences.  Height, weight, religion, race, hair color, education, political affiliation and other factors will all narrow your options even more, until you have decided what exactly your "perfect spouse" is.  And after all this numerical dust has settled, there are approximately 3 people who are a perfect match.

But then there is the question:

Are you what those three women are looking for?  If they are looking for a guy over six feet who can dance, speaks perfect Russian and makes six figures, you may be out of luck.

And even if you find someone who meets these superficial parameters, your backgrounds and personality still have to be cohesive.  The fact is, you just may not like them...

I have seen a lot of people "settle." Settle down, settle in, settle with...Because they couldn't find what they were looking for.  And it's sad...

That's why I wake up blessed everyday.  When I say I have found "The One," I mean it.  I love my wife. Everything about her.  Gina is everything I could ever ask for in a wife.  And, based off of what she has told me, I am her idea of a "perfect" husband.  We are not perfect, and our life may not be perfect, either.  But we are perfect for each other...